http://www.frommyexperience.com/cruel-to-be-kind.php Experiences are best when shared. Please add your experiences. Thu, 25 Feb 2010 21:50:00 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://www.frommyexperience.com/cruel-to-be-kind.php/comment-page-1#comment-477 Kristi Sat, 11 Oct 2008 06:58:50 +0000 http://www.frommyexperience.com/cruel-to-be-kind.php#comment-477 Reading that reminded me so much of my situation with my son. He is still young, will be 5 in January. I have gotten nothing but the run-around when it comes to him. No answers, no concern from others, nothing. I also had to take him to the ER only once though. His behavior is just so out of control and I feel like a failure half the time because of it. I could never ever put my son in a group home though. He may benefit in one way but the love he gets from his mom would be where he would suffer. So I couldn't go that route but since I have had my ups and downs in parenting I have learned one thing.... NEVER EVER talk down to another parent and say you don't "agree" with how they do things. I am sure you can relate to that. I'm sure you have been told a swift paddle to the rear would do the trick, as I have heard that more times than I would have liked to. Before I had my son I was one of those bystanders that knew exactly how I would handle a child....but until you have a child with a disability, especially one where they don't OBVIOUSLY look developmentally delayed, then you really don't know much at all. It's the hardest job on the planet in my eyes. To live in constant fear of your child's own well being because he will seriously hurt himself without thinking, it's scary. So good luck to you and your family and I hope your son gets all the help he needs! Reading that reminded me so much of my situation with my son. He is still young, will be 5 in January. I have gotten nothing but the run-around when it comes to him. No answers, no concern from others, nothing. I also had to take him to the ER only once though. His behavior is just so out of control and I feel like a failure half the time because of it. I could never ever put my son in a group home though. He may benefit in one way but the love he gets from his mom would be where he would suffer. So I couldn’t go that route but since I have had my ups and downs in parenting I have learned one thing…. NEVER EVER talk down to another parent and say you don’t “agree” with how they do things. I am sure you can relate to that. I’m sure you have been told a swift paddle to the rear would do the trick, as I have heard that more times than I would have liked to. Before I had my son I was one of those bystanders that knew exactly how I would handle a child….but until you have a child with a disability, especially one where they don’t OBVIOUSLY look developmentally delayed, then you really don’t know much at all. It’s the hardest job on the planet in my eyes. To live in constant fear of your child’s own well being because he will seriously hurt himself without thinking, it’s scary. So good luck to you and your family and I hope your son gets all the help he needs!

]]> http://www.frommyexperience.com/cruel-to-be-kind.php/comment-page-1#comment-203 peridotlady Fri, 15 Feb 2008 02:31:21 +0000 http://www.frommyexperience.com/cruel-to-be-kind.php#comment-203 As I read your post, my heart broke for you and your wife. As a parent myself, I want what is best for my child but to have to resort to your performance (out of necessity)...I just don't know if I would have the courage to do as you did. My hat is off to you and your wife for your selfless decision and seeing the bigger picture of what would be best for your son in the long run. My heart lightened to read that Kurt was finding success in his new environment. Thank you for sharing something so personal. As I read your post, my heart broke for you and your wife. As a parent myself, I want what is best for my child but to have to resort to your performance (out of necessity)…I just don’t know if I would have the courage to do as you did. My hat is off to you and your wife for your selfless decision and seeing the bigger picture of what would be best for your son in the long run. My heart lightened to read that Kurt was finding success in his new environment. Thank you for sharing something so personal.

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