Share Your Experiences! » Relationship Experiences http://www.frommyexperience.com Experiences are best when shared. Please add your experiences. Thu, 02 Feb 2012 22:48:15 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 How To Save A Marriage After Infidelity – Surviving Infidelity With A Plan http://www.frommyexperience.com/how-to-save-a-marriage-after-infidelity-surviving-infidelity-with-a-plan.php http://www.frommyexperience.com/how-to-save-a-marriage-after-infidelity-surviving-infidelity-with-a-plan.php#comments Tue, 21 Jul 2009 00:39:08 +0000 Shell http://www.frommyexperience.com/how-to-save-a-marriage-after-infidelity-surviving-infidelity-with-a-plan.php Cheating is one of the biggest blows a relationship can get. It is a sad fact, that many marriages end in a divorce because of the infidelity of one of the partners. It is very hard to overcome the resentment and hurt that come naturally with the fact that you have been cheated on – surviving infidelity and saving your marriage might seem impossible right now. How can you save a marriage after the infidelity of your spouse?

Dealing with infidelity is not easy, it is very hard to regain the trust in your spouse. Before you do anything else, you need give yourself time to deal with the shock. Tell your spouse that you need time to recover from this blow. Allow yourself some quality time, visit a spa, go out with friends – do anything that makes you feel better.

Get your thoughts in another direction, only think about pleasant things while taking your time off. After your initial shock is gone, it is time to evaluate your relationship. Cheating never comes out of the blue. Your spouse must be seriously dissatisfied about something in your relationship to seek fulfillment outside of your marriage.

You need to investigate about the reasons for the cheating of your partner. Make a list on the things that are wrong in your marriage, then go talk to your partner and ask them for the reasons of their infidelity. This list will be the starting point for a discussion with your spouse on how to save your marriage.

In this discussion you will find out if your relationship can survive after the infidelity of your spouse. Both of you need to be as honest as possible with each other. It is possible to save nearly every marriage, it just needs the commitment and action of one of the partners.

How you are dealing with the fact of your spouse having cheated on you is equivalent with surviving the infidelity. Have you done the steps above and have given your marriage a honest evaluation? Doing this will give you an important outline on where to start to save your marriage after infidelity.

The easiest way to save your marriage after infidelity is to follow a proven step by step guide that will help you to rekindle the fire in your marriage.

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]]> http://www.frommyexperience.com/how-to-save-a-marriage-after-infidelity-surviving-infidelity-with-a-plan.php/feed 0 How I Learned To Respect Women http://www.frommyexperience.com/how-i-learned-to-respect-women.php http://www.frommyexperience.com/how-i-learned-to-respect-women.php#comments Sun, 08 Feb 2009 04:16:23 +0000 contributor http://www.frommyexperience.com/?p=233 I can’t remember exactly which summer it was, ’59 or ’60, but the rest is crystal clear. I learned a most valuable worldly lesson that day. It was an education and a humiliation. A lesson in respect and that old adage: never judge a book by its cover.

It is often said that in the repressed and carefree 1950s that kids didn’t know about sex. That’s not exactly true. We didn’t know what lovemaking was or how a baby was born, but we certainly had a primitive knowledge of sex appeal.

Little girls knew they liked boys who were “cute,” and try as we may to think of girls as “icky,” we boys knew we wanted to be near the pretty ones.

If a girl was pretty and also able to run and catch and kick like a boy too, then she was even more desirable to be around.

I had always liked girls. They were my playmates. First LuLu, then Ruthie and after Kindergarden, Nancy and Patsy and Lora. I played high/low water with my girl cousins, so I was surrounded by women as I grew up. It was when you were around boys that you learned that liking and playing with girls was yucky and being a sissy. Didn’t matter to me; I liked girls.

I lacked the knowledge of how to tell someone I liked them. What did you say? What did you do?

On a brilliant summer day at the lake I thought I found out.

I liked Joyce Hoefers. I mean I REALLY LIKED Joyce. We had been classmates since Kindergarden and I worshiped her from afar. She was one of those pretty girls who could play like one of the boys, and I always wanted to be in her company. I just did not know how to tell her.

I noticed that boys were splashing and teasing girls they liked. Sometimes a boy would grab the girl he liked and duck her under the water, a flirtatious gesture designed to show her how much he cared. Often the girl would come up for air protesting and slapping, but then the two of them would run away together laughing about the matter.

“That was it!”, I realized. I had to show Joyce that I liked her by being the tough guy. I would grab her and throw her under the water in a manly display of admiration, and then she would laugh about it knowing she had captured my heart.

I approached her in the shallows at the edge of the beach and grabbed her from behind, preparing to push her under.

Everything after that is a blur….

Just as I went to push Joyce under, she pulled free, yelled “No you don’t!”, and in seconds I was being dunked not once, not twice, but three times over. As I came up for air I could see her walking away hurling even more anger in my direction.

This wasn’t the way it was supposed to happen! She was supposed to give in to me and laugh it all off and she would know that I truly liked her! I was humiliated. I was destroyed.

I looked around expecting to see everyone on the beach pointing their fingers at me and laughing at my sorry self. The weird thing was, it seemed like no one had even noticed, like it all happened in another dimension; “The Embarrassment Zone.”
I picked myself up and went up to the top of the wall to sit and ponder.

How could this have happened? A girl did this to me. A girl!

But this was not just any girl and I should have known better.

I should have been myself and not have been afraid. I should have been smart enough to walk up to her and say : “I like you Joyce.” I didn’t and I got my butt kicked.

I learned my lesson that day and from then on I held a profound respect for all women.

I still liked Joyce.

I still admired her from afar.

I mean REALLY afar.

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Jim Maddox

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]]> http://www.frommyexperience.com/how-i-learned-to-respect-women.php/feed 1 Social Experience http://www.frommyexperience.com/social-experience.php http://www.frommyexperience.com/social-experience.php#comments Wed, 31 Dec 2008 17:43:02 +0000 SocialXperience.com http://www.frommyexperience.com/?p=185 There have been many relationships for me over the years. I have met many interesting people. There were the friends and teachers from grade school who you have your first real relationships. The first girl that you kissed and you knew that this time would last forever. The bully at recess, who you knew would have a tough life ahead of them. The other kids who stayed overnight to play hide and seek in the basement. The fun we had, and the dreams we had we knew would keep us all together. I had different friends in high school, some were the jocks and some were the geeks. We went to prom together like everyone else, yet it seemed that the interaction among us started to change. The feelings were stronger and the pain was longer. The weekdays were just as long as the weekends were short. The breakup after 3 months with a girlfriend seemed like this time would last forever. School was tough in other ways too. I had a lot of friends, but it seemed like there were bigger things to come after graduation. We all went our separate ways to meet other new friends. We moved on to new adventures. Meeting new people in college and working odd jobs became a whole new social experience for me. Working at a restaurant and meeting middle-aged men washing dishes seemed a little unusual, but then I began to think about what their circumstances were about. I met a girl who was about 10 years older than me and she was a single mom, she was going to school at night and she worked as a cook. Her story was how she wanted to help her son by getting him into a better school, since he had difficulties learning. The other cook was proud to moving up at the restaurant as a the head cook, he had been there for nearly 4 years. The older lady at the check out was here to make some money and to make new friends since her husband had passed away. I realized that this was just a moment for me while during school, this was a big deal to them. Some days I did not want to work, because school was getting me down. As I looked at the others and their situations, I began to realize that my experiences were not about me, but about everyone else.
After college I got a job far away from family and friends because it was the best opportunity at the time. Although, I began to see more hardships of others around me. I was not always the type who considered the glass half empty, but I guess this kind of stuff was more evident to me than the good things at this point. As I moved on into my adult life I guess I really began to understand my life lesson. I began my first real job in sales and have not looked back since. I will share my job experiences on a future post. I have learned how to better see and feel the needs of others. This has helped me in my experiences with others. No matter how difficult your life may seem, there is always someone who has a bigger challenge.
I have now begun to explore other personal experiences on the web and have enjoyed blogs and forums like these to share and read about others. Words cannot describe that the world is so much bigger than you are, look outside yourself to see inside of others and you will have a more positive social experience.
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